While one girlfriend at the time kind of undermined my goals and wanted to bitch and complain about the office, it was my now ex-fiance that really took the cake. Although he claimed to be a film student in semi-retirement, the truth was that not only did he want to continue punching a clock but his career goals seemed to change by the week - from a hot dog stand owner to recycling center specialist.
Even though our career goals may change with age or a consequence of a particular event, I learned the hard way that the ex was just not a happy individual. After many years of listening to things that happened decades ago to preparing generous calorie-laden meals to compensate for his abandonment issues, there is no amateur fix for toxicity.
How do you know that special person in your life is toxic? Above is a short video that breaks it down in less than 10 minutes. Even though I can't tell you to quit someone because they may be a 100% mental case, you may want to consider how much your productivity has been affected.
If the following applies to you...
- They want to talk while you are working
- Complain about the long hours spent on a project
- Interfere with productivity *now wait for it...drum roll, please*
- Want to be a part of the action even though they have no experience and never expressed serious interest prior to YOUR success